Whether it’s the goodbye I’ll see you later, the goodbye & good luck, the goodbye for now or the goodbye forever. It is inevitable that we will go through different types of goodbyes throughout our lifetime.
They are a natural part of life, but this doesn’t necessarily mean goodbyes are easy or our emotional health isn’t affected.
This week my colleague left the organisation we work for after 6 years. It seems weird when we think that we spend more time at work than what we do at home. Our work colleagues can become another ‘family’ to us within our lives. Therefore, I thought I would dedicate this post to goodbyes in the workplace.
How best to manage these:
Embrace the emotions
Goodbyes can cause mixed feelings. One minute you may be sad, the next excited for whoever is leaving and that’s okay.
Having mixed emotions about goodbyes is normal. Naturally, we do what we can to sooth these emotions short term. Safe ways to do this would be to listen to music, talk it out with someone, going for a long walk or simply having a cry.
Sharing the sadness
You know the old saying “a problem shared is a problem halved?”
Expressing your emotion with others can have great benefit, they can be there to support you and you support them in return. You never know, you both may be feeling the same.
Whether you’ve chosen to say goodbye or someone’s having to say goodbye to you, acceptance is an important part of moving on.
As mentioned in my post on embracing change, failure to do so can provide negative consequences on our health and well-being.
Focus on the positives moving forward
Not all goodbyes are negative, new doors open, new opportunities arise, new people will enter your life. This applies for the colleagues that remain and those that move on.
Mark the occasion
Everyone loves a celebration. Celebrate the achievements you have made as a team and the achievements your colleague(s) made for themselves. Reminisce on the good days (and the bad). This helps to recognise this is a happy ending.
Yes, goodbyes can be difficult but think of how blessed we are to have good relationships with our colleagues that makes us sad to see them go.