The Good In Goodbye.

March 16, 2018

Goodbye card

Whether it’s the goodbye I’ll see you later, the goodbye & good luck, the goodbye for now or the goodbye forever. It is inevitable that we will go through different types of goodbyes throughout our lifetime.

They are a natural part of life, but this doesn’t necessarily mean goodbyes are easy or our emotional health isn’t affected.

This week my colleague left the organisation we work for after 6 years. It seems weird when we think that we spend more time at work than what we do at home. Our work colleagues can become another ‘family’ to us within our lives. Therefore, I thought I would dedicate this post to goodbyes in the workplace.

How best to manage these:

Embrace the emotions

Goodbyes can cause mixed feelings. One minute you may be sad, the next excited for whoever is leaving and that’s okay.

Having mixed emotions about goodbyes is normal. Naturally, we do what we can to sooth these emotions short term. Safe ways to do this would be to listen to music, talk it out with someone, going for a long walk or simply having a cry.

Sharing the sadness

You know the old saying “a problem shared is a problem halved?”

Expressing your emotion with others can have great benefit, they can be there to support you and you support them in return. You never know, you both may be feeling the same.

Acceptance

Whether you’ve chosen to say goodbye or someone’s having to say goodbye to you, acceptance is an important part of moving on.

As mentioned in my post on embracing change, failure to do so can provide negative consequences on our health and well-being.

Focus on the positives moving forward

Not all goodbyes are negative, new doors open, new opportunities arise, new people will enter your life. This applies for the colleagues that remain and those that move on.

Mark the occasion

Everyone loves a celebration. Celebrate the achievements you have made as a team and the achievements your colleague(s) made for themselves. Reminisce on the good days (and the bad). This helps to recognise this is a happy ending.

Yes, goodbyes can be difficult but think of how blessed we are to have good relationships with our colleagues that makes us sad to see them go.

8 comments so far.

8 responses to “The Good In Goodbye.”

  1. Fran says:

    Beautiful post. You’re very lucky to have such a great relationship with your colleague. I always like to remember that time can heal. New people come in and fill their place. Time makes things just a memory. And in this case, a good memory.

  2. tigertoosh says:

    Lovely post Aimee – I think alot of people forget o mourn too, even on smaller losses it’s important to give yourself the space to mourn losing something – often that change is as reflective of what we lose and how we adapt as what the person leaving us feels. Great theme on the post, good work 🙂

  3. aimeehodge says:

    You’re sooo right! Thank you ☺️ x

  4. Such a thought provoking post, nicely written x

  5. I love the positiveness in your post. I always try to see the good in goodbye because I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason. So it’s good that you broke down the different reasons for seeing the good in goodbye! I often times find myself embracing my emotions now more than ever. I think the last few years I’ve come to the understanding that it is okay to cry and let your feelings out because in the end you’ll feel so much better! Great post❤️

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